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~The creation and selection of {be}~

As we grow and develop from the early stages of life to the early stages of “legal adulthood” there is a consistent question that comes from many directions and people in our lives.

“What do you want to be?”
“What are going to be when you graduate high school/college?”
“What will you be when you are an adult?”

These questions are just a few of the many we and our peers have been approached with multiple times. The variations in the questions still ultimately lead to the same answer. In former generations the common high schooler response to these questions were most likely referring to a college, the family business, or a trade that the student had determined to pursue. But, that is where I ask, “Why?”. Why would those be the expected, accepted and proven common answers? Appropriately, in the past generations, these answers were the most common methods to obtain success financially. Which leaves my second question unanswered. Why are we asking “children” “what” they want to be? As we continue to influence the generation(s) we are raising up we continue to ask these inappropriate questions and expect the same answers which are now limiting responses in the current informational age we reside in. I think it is more appropriate and less deceiving to help the generations under us answer this question:

“Who do you want to {be} when you are an adult?”

“Who”, not “what”; we as humans are a “who” and we need to be figure out “who” we are in God and allow God to guide the “what” we do with our lives. Many times I know I lost my “who” when placing my pursuit for my “what” ahead of the “who” I am in God. Unfortunately, I’ve witnessed many people compromise the dignity and the integrity of their “who” because pursuing their “what” was the number one thing in their life and they were willing to sacrifice integrity and dignity to get it; or even worse had drifted so far from knowing “who” they were they had no integrity left to offer. Their identity being so consumed in the title they were chasing caused almost a desensitization to humanity, relationships, respect, kindness, and the satisfaction of doing the right thing. I once, not that long ago, watched and listened as a wise man, I am indirectly partnered with in business, boldly and confidently stood in front of a room of fifty to sixty business owners and stated this short but impactful statement that has continued to run through my mind and heart since that day.

“There is no substitute for doing the right thing”

The most impactful part of this experience, as I sat in that room listening to him talk, was that I could easily identify twenty people in that room who were living examples of “always doing the right thing”. As I say this, dear friends, show grace, as we all know humans live in sin and are not perfect, but it was in these imperfections where I knew undoubtedly that these people I had grown to love, really were living, breathing examples of never putting anything above “doing the right thing”. Even if that meant humbling oneself to admit a mistake, maybe showing kindness to someone who is not showing kindness, maybe forgiving someone who lied to them, or maybe saying no to a tempting situation that would benefit them but compromise their integrity and relationships in their associations.

Association is key. We are the sum of the five people we spend the most time with. It makes it easier to stand up for the right thing without wavering when your associations are such strong examples of just that.

So whether you are already a parent or hoping to be parent I want to ask you these questions.

Are you asking your child, “who they want to {be} in life” or “what they
want to ‘be’ in life”, when talking about their present and future?

Are you more focused on your child associating with respected titles or
respected good people who have only good influences to offer?

Are you more concerned about your confidence in their ability to possess
a degree or your confidence in knowing that they are good willed,
trustworthy, and striving to do what is right?

Are you more concerned with the title they earn or the integrity they hold
and positive impact they have on your family and the world?

Are you preparing your child for overcoming the harsh reality the world
can throw at them at times or are you preparing them to chase a
paycheck and the “corner office” at all costs?

Are you viewing your child’s identity as their job title or the person you
have reared them to be in God against the odds of the sinful world?

Parents do not discredit your hard work by approving of your children based on a title, a degree, a college acceptance letter, and worldly success! Do not discredit your hard work by approving of yourself based on these things! Lead by example; accept yourself and your children for who they are in God. Do not misquote me as you read, be proud of accomplishments, but be cautious of where you are valuing identity.

Let’s breakdown the word “be” to understand the meaning of {be} at a higher and very different level than we have known it.

Merriam-Webster’s online dictionary defines “be” as:

a. to equal in meaning
b. to have identity with
c. to have specified qualification or characterization
d. to take place

source: http://www.merriam-webster.com

Too often we take this definition without a perspective of God. God calls us to “love others because He first loved us” (1 John 4:19). He also calls us to “view others more significant than ourselves” (Philippians 2:3) to act in humility. And, the favorite quote of Sundayschool teachers across the western civilization, “Love your neighbor as you love yourself”(Matthew 22:39). We show love to show equality which is one of the defining aspects of {be}.

Identity. Too often we pursue the paths and plans we have (self created or God-ordained) without a sense of identity in God. We begin with the best of intentions to keep our eyes fixed on Him, to stay in close proximity to Him, to discern His Will and Word daily. Yet, as sinners of the world we can often find ourselves consumed with the accomplishment; consumed with acquiring it or consumed with the success of it. When our identity is not solely attached to God we cannot know if we are walking in His WIl. If we are not walking in His Will we cannot receive the prosperity and blessings He has planned for our future in the calling and assignments He gives us. Furthermore, without having our identity in God all the pressure is on us to be perfect and to succeed abundantly at what we are pursuing. Yet so much of that is out of our control. We control our actions and attitudes while walking in faith knowing the “why”; allowing God to handle the “how” during the journey. When we lose identity in God we lose the harvest of our faith. To add onto that thought, our identity becomes temporary. When we have our identity in God that identity is eternal, but an identity in a job or project has an expiration date. Eventually that role will come to pass, whether for the better or for the worse, it will still come to pass. If you have wrapped your identity up in that job or project what will your identity be in once it has passed? In the words of a wise women I met, “Do not confuse roles with purpose”.

We all have strengths and weaknesses. God has given each one of us special talents in a unique combination of ways. There is no one else on this God created earth that is exactly the same as you. We have commonalities but each of us is unique! We are all “fearfully and wonderfully made” (Psalm 139:14). Each of us matter and are here to carry our part of God’s glorious plan. God equips us with special qualifications and characteristics to fit us into the plan He has. Learning of special qualities and characteristics helps us understand what God may have created us for. Also, let us not forget, we must choose to {be} a part of God’s plans and choose to follow the callings he has placed on our lives (even when that means we might have to get uncomfortable; like opening up a wellness center alongside an already existing business after years of chronic illness). Warning: be cautious of who you allow to give you feedback on this matter; you should only consider advice from people who are where you want to be in life. We are called to love everyone in our life, we are not called to please everyone or listen to everyone.

To {be} is a combination of all of these concepts combined with taking place. Taking place in this world {be}ing the best you, you can {be}, the healthiest you, you can {be}. Eyes fixed on God. Placing your identity in Him. Living in strengths. Shining His light in the world. Focused on pleasing Him. Living in His endless and abundant blessing as you walk in faith everyday. The {be} is a platform to be a resource for the world, and to empower wellness in the day-to-day life. The {be} website is the best way to complete the mission of reaching our friends on a daily basis. Connect with us, share with us, and embrace us as your helping hand each day in this crazy busy world. As you walk in faith each day pursuing your callings and assignments, as you {be} you, hold on to these truths:

Romans 8:28 “All things come together for those who love God and are called according to His purpose.”

Romans 8:1-2 “There is no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus, because through Christ Jesus the law of the Spirit, who gives life has set you free from the law of sin and death.”

Galatians 5:22-23 “The fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, gentleness, kindness, goodness, faithfulness and self control.”

Proverbs 16:3 “Commit to the Lord in whatever you do and He will establish your plans.”

Philippians 4:6-7 “Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God which transcends all understanding will guard you hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.”

Philippians 4:13 “I can do all things through Christ my Lord who strengthens me.”

Philippians 3:14 “I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus.”

Philippians 4:8 “Whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable – if anything is excellent and praiseworthy – think about such things.”

Joshua 1:9 “Have I not commanded? [says the Lord] Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will go with you wherever you go.”

James 1:2-4 “Consider it pure joy whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. Let perseverance finish it’s work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything.”

Proverbs 3:5-6 “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not our your own understanding, in all your ways submit to Him and He will make your paths straight.”

Isaiah 40:31 “Those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles, they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not grow faint.”

Isaiah 41:10 “So do not fear for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; i will uphold you with My righteous right hand.”

Hebrews 6:19 “We have this hope as an anchor for the soul, firm and secure.”

Proverbs 13:20 “Walk with the wise and become wise, for a companion of fools suffers harm.”

Proverbs 27:17 “As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another.”

Hebrews 13:17 “Remember your leaders, who spoke the Word of God to you. Consider the outcome of their way of life and imitate their faith.”

Galatians 1:10 “Am I now trying to win the approval of human beings, or of God? Or am I trying to please people? If I were still trying to please people, I would not be a servant of Christ.”

Hebrews 12:2 “And let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us, fixing our eyes on Jesus, the pioneer and perfecter of faith.”

Psalm 103:11-12 “For as high as the heavens are above the earth, so great is His love for those who hear Him; as far as the east is from the west, so far has He removed our transgressions from us.”

1 John 4:19 “We love because He first loved us.”

Psalm 139:14 “I praise You because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; Your works are wonderful, I know that full well.”

James 1:17 “Every good and perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of heavenly lights who does not change like shifting shadows.”

Galatians 6:9 “Let us not become weary in doing good, for in due time we shall reap the harvest if we faint not.”

Philippians 4:19 “My God shall supply all of my needs according to His riches and glory in Christ Jesus.”

So go, grow, {be}come, {be}!